Disclaimer: The following is discussion material in response to a post I read elsewhere. I am not saying it is right, that it works, just sparking a topic of discussion. More than anything I believe in sticking to /What Works For You/
A lot of people are getting married, some are doing their first, second, third, even fourth wedding. Call me sceptical but if you failed at making the life long commitment the first time why would you try again?
The way I see it is that the future is uncertain, everything will change, climate, fashion, economy, work, immigration, biological clock, tastes, interests, types of people you are attracted to and so on.
If we really can not see into the future how do we know we are with “The One”?
I think it makes more sense to live life in a way where we do not know the future, I don’t think a life long commitment to one person makes sense.
I have been reading up on polyamorous relationships, Wikipedia says:
Polyamory (from Greek πολυ [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [love]) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the consent of everyone involved.
The idea is that a relationship may not just be 2 people, there could be three or four in the main relationship, that said people are not limited to those in the “primary” relationship, people can still see others, sometimes called Betas outside of that.
It’s not just about sex, it is more like having a large family, you still make a commitment to each other and the future but you are not limited by this.
If everyone is comfortable with it, then why not? And does it make you better equipped to cope with change in the future?